Kamis, 28 September 2017

Pathological Eating Disorders and Poly-Behavioral Addiction

When considering that pathological eating disorders and their related diseases now afflict more people globally than malnutrition, some experts in the medical field are presently purporting that the world’s number one health problem is no longer heart disease or cancer, but obesity. According to the World Health Organization (June, 2005), “obesity has reached epidemic proportions globally, with more than 1 billion adults overweight - at least 300 million of them clinically obese - and is a major contributor to the global burden of chronic disease and disability. Often coexisting in developing countries with under-nutrition, obesity is a complex condition, with serious social and psychological dimensions, affecting virtually all ages and socioeconomic groups.” The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (June, 2005), reports that “during the past 20 years, obesity among adults has risen significantly in the United States. The latest data from the National Center for Health Statistics show that 30 percent of U.S. adults 20 years of age and older - over 60 million people - are obese. This increase is not limited to adults. The percentage of young people who are overweight has more than tripled since 1980. Among children and teens aged 6-19 years, 16 percent (over 9 million young people) are considered overweight.”

Morbid obesity is a condition that is described as being 100lbs. or more above ideal weight, or having a Body Mass Index (BMI) equal to or greater than 30. Being obese alone puts one at a much greater risk of suffering from a combination of several other metabolic factors such as having high blood pressure, being insulin resistant, and/ or having abnormal cholesterol levels that are all related to a poor diet and a lack of exercise. The sum is greater than the parts. Each metabolic problem is a risk for other diseases separately, but together they multiply the chances of life-threatening illness such as heart disease, cancer, diabetes, and stroke, etc. Up to 30.5% of our Nations’ adults suffer from morbid obesity, and two thirds or 66% of adults are overweight measured by having a Body Mass Index (BMI) greater than 25. Considering that the U.S. population is now over 290,000,000, some estimate that up to 73,000,000 Americans could benefit from some type of education awareness and/ or treatment for a pathological eating disorder or food addiction. Typically, eating patterns are considered pathological problems when issues concerning weight and/ or eating habits, (e.g., overeating, under eating, binging, purging, and/ or obsessing over diets and calories, etc.) become the focus of a persons’ life, causing them to feel shame, guilt, and embarrassment with related symptoms of depression and anxiety that cause significant maladaptive social and/ or occupational impairment in functioning.

We must consider that some people develop dependencies on certain life-functioning activities such as eating that can be just as life threatening as drug addiction and just as socially and psychologically damaging as alcoholism. Some do suffer from hormonal or metabolic disorders, but most obese individuals simply consume more calories than they burn due to an out of control overeating Food Addiction. Hyper-obesity resulting from gross, habitual overeating is considered to be more like the problems found in those ingrained personality disorders that involve loss of control over appetite of some kind (Orford, 1985). Binge-eating Disorder episodes are characterized in part by a feeling that one cannot stop or control how much or what one is eating (DSM-IV-TR, 2000). Lienard and Vamecq (2004) have proposed an “auto-addictive” hypothesis for pathological eating disorders. They report that, “eating disorders are associated with abnormal levels of endorphins and share clinical similarities with psychoactive drug abuse. The key role of endorphins has recently been demonstrated in animals with regard to certain aspects of normal, pathological and experimental eating habits (food restriction combined with stress, loco-motor hyperactivity).” They report that the “pathological management of eating disorders may lead to two extreme situations: the absence of ingestion (anorexia) and excessive ingestion (bulimia).”

Co-morbidity & Mortality

Addictions and other mental disorders as a rule do not develop in isolation. The National Co-morbidity Survey (NCS) that sampled the entire U.S. population in 1994, found that among non-institutionalized American male and female adolescents and adults (ages 15-54), roughly 50% had a diagnosable Axis I mental disorder at some time in their lives. This survey’s results indicated that 35% of males will at some time in their lives have abused substances to the point of qualifying for a mental disorder diagnosis, and nearly 25% of women will have qualified for a serious mood disorder (mostly major depression). A significant finding of note from the NCS study was the widespread occurrence of co-morbidity among diagnosed disorders. It specifically found that 56% of the respondents with a history of at least one disorder also had two or more additional disorders. These persons with a history of three or more co-morbid disorders were estimated to be one-sixth of the U.S. population, or some 43 million people (Kessler, 1994).

McGinnis and Foege, (1994) report that, “the most prominent contributors to mortality in the United States in 1990 were tobacco (an estimated 400,000 deaths), diet and activity patterns (300,000), alcohol (100,000), microbial agents (90,000), toxic agents (60,000), firearms (35,000), sexual behavior (30,000), motor vehicles (25,000), and illicit use of drugs (20,000). Acknowledging that the leading cause of preventable morbidity and mortality was risky behavior lifestyles, the U.S. Prevention Services Task Force set out to research behavioral counseling interventions in health care settings (Williams & Wilkins, 1996).

Poor Prognosis

We have come to realize today more than any other time in history that the treatment of lifestyle diseases and addictions are often a difficult and frustrating task for all concerned. Repeated failures abound with all of the addictions, even with utilizing the most effective treatment strategies. But why do 47% of patients treated in private treatment programs (for example) relapse within the first year following treatment (Gorski,T., 2001)? Have addiction specialists become conditioned to accept failure as the norm? There are many reasons for this poor prognosis. Some would proclaim that addictions are psychosomatically- induced and maintained in a semi-balanced force field of driving and restraining multidimensional forces. Others would say that failures are due simply to a lack of self-motivation or will power. Most would agree that lifestyle behavioral addictions are serious health risks that deserve our attention, but could it possibly be that patients with multiple addictions are being under diagnosed (with a single dependence) simply due to a lack of diagnostic tools and resources that are incapable of resolving the complexity of assessing and treating a patient with multiple addictions?

Diagnostic Delineation

Thus far, the DSM-IV-TR has not delineated a diagnosis for the complexity of multiple behavioral and substance addictions. It has reserved the Poly-substance Dependence diagnosis for a person who is repeatedly using at least three groups of substances during the same 12-month period, but the criteria for this diagnosis do not involve any behavioral addiction symptoms. In the Psychological Factors Affecting Medical Condition’s section (DSM-IV-TR, 2000); maladaptive health behaviors (e.g., overeating, unsafe sexual practices, excessive alcohol and drug use, etc.) may be listed on Axis I only if they are significantly affecting the course of treatment of a medical or mental condition.

Since successful treatment outcomes are dependent on thorough assessments, accurate diagnoses, and comprehensive individualized treatment planning, it is no wonder that repeated rehabilitation failures and low success rates are the norm instead of the exception in the addictions field, when the latest DSM-IV-TR does not even include a diagnosis for multiple addictive behavioral disorders. Treatment clinics need to have a treatment planning system and referral network that is equipped to thoroughly assess multiple addictive and mental health disorders and related treatment needs and comprehensively provide education/ awareness, prevention strategy groups, and/ or specific addictions treatment services for individuals diagnosed with multiple addictions. Written treatment goals and objectives should be specified for each separate addiction and dimension of an individuals’ life, and the desired performance outcome or completion criteria should be specifically stated, behaviorally based (a visible activity), and measurable.

New Proposed Diagnosis

To assist in resolving the limited DSM-IV-TRs’ diagnostic capability, a multidimensional diagnosis of “Poly-behavioral Addiction,” is proposed for more accurate diagnosis leading to more effective treatment planning. This diagnosis encompasses the broadest category of addictive disorders that would include an individual manifesting a combination of substance abuse addictions, and other obsessively-compulsive behavioral addictive behavioral patterns to pathological gambling, religion, and/ or sex / pornography, etc.). Behavioral addictions are just as damaging - psychologically and socially as alcohol and drug abuse. They are comparative to other life-style diseases such as diabetes, hypertension, and heart disease in their behavioral manifestations, their etiologies, and their resistance to treatments. They are progressive disorders that involve obsessive thinking and compulsive behaviors. They are also characterized by a preoccupation with a continuous or periodic loss of control, and continuous irrational behavior in spite of adverse consequences.

Poly-behavioral addiction would be described as a state of periodic or chronic physical, mental, emotional, cultural, sexual and/ or spiritual/ religious intoxication. These various types of intoxication are produced by repeated obsessive thoughts and compulsive practices involved in pathological relationships to any mood-altering substance, person, organization, belief system, and/ or activity. The individual has an overpowering desire, need or compulsion with the presence of a tendency to intensify their adherence to these practices, and evidence of phenomena of tolerance, abstinence and withdrawal, in which there is always physical and/ or psychic dependence on the effects of this pathological relationship. In addition, there is a 12 - month period in which an individual is pathologically involved with three or more behavioral and/ or substance use addictions simultaneously, but the criteria are not met for dependence for any one addiction in particular (Slobodzien, J., 2005). In essence, Poly-behavioral addiction is the synergistically integrated chronic dependence on multiple physiologically addictive substances and behaviors (e.g., using/ abusing substances - nicotine, alcohol, & drugs, and/or acting impulsively or obsessively compulsive in regards to gambling, food binging, sex, and/ or religion, etc.) simultaneously.

New Proposed Theory

The Addictions Recovery Measurement System’s (ARMS) theory is a nonlinear, dynamical, non-hierarchical model that focuses on interactions between multiple risk factors and situational determinants similar to catastrophe and chaos theories in predicting and explaining addictive behaviors and relapse. Multiple influences trigger and operate within high-risk situations and influence the global multidimensional functioning of an individual. The process of relapse incorporates the interaction between background factors (e.g., family history, social support, years of possible dependence, and co-morbid psychopathology), physiological states (e.g., physical withdrawal), cognitive processes (e.g., self-efficacy, cravings, motivation, the abstinence violation effect, outcome expectancies), and coping skills (Brownell et al., 1986; Marlatt & Gordon, 1985). To put it simply, small changes in an individual’s behavior can result in large qualitative changes at the global level and patterns at the global level of a system emerge solely from numerous little interactions.

The ARMS hypothesis purports that there is a multidimensional synergistically negative resistance that individual’s develop to any one form of treatment to a single dimension of their lives, because the effects of an individual’s addiction have dynamically interacted multi-dimensionally. Having the primary focus on one dimension is insufficient. Traditionally, addiction treatment programs have failed to accommodate for the multidimensional synergistically negative effects of an individual having multiple addictions, (e.g. nicotine, alcohol, and obesity, etc.). Behavioral addictions interact negatively with each other and with strategies to improve overall functioning. They tend to encourage the use of tobacco, alcohol and other drugs, help increase violence, decrease functional capacity, and promote social isolation. Most treatment theories today involve assessing other dimensions to identify dual diagnosis or co-morbidity diagnoses, or to assess contributing factors that may play a role in the individual’s primary addiction. The ARMS’ theory proclaims that a multidimensional treatment plan must be devised addressing the possible multiple addictions identified for each one of an individual’s life dimensions in addition to developing specific goals and objectives for each dimension.

The ARMS acknowledges the complexity and unpredictable nature of lifestyle addictions following the commitment of an individual to accept assistance with changing their lifestyles. The Stages of Change model (Prochaska & DiClemente, 1984) is supported as a model of motivation, incorporating five stages of readiness to change: pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance. The ARMS theory supports the constructs of self-efficacy and social networking as outcome predictors of future behavior across a wide variety of lifestyle risk factors (Bandura, 1977). The Relapse Prevention cognitive-behavioral approach (Marlatt, 1985) with the goal of identifying and preventing high-risk situations for relapse is also supported within the ARMS theory.

The ARMS continues to promote Twelve Step Recovery Groups such as Food Addicts and Alcoholics Anonymous along with spiritual and religious recovery activities as a necessary means to maintain outcome effectiveness. The beneficial effects of AA may be attributable in part to the replacement of the participant's social network of drinking friends with a fellowship of AA members who can provide motivation and support for maintaining abstinence (Humphreys, K.; Mankowski, E.S, 1999) and (Morgenstern, J.; Labouvie, E.; McCrady, B.S.; Kahler, C.W.; and Frey, R.M., 1997). In addition, AA's approach often results in the development of coping skills, many of which are similar to those taught in more structured psychosocial treatment settings, thereby leading to reductions in alcohol consumption (NIAAA, June 2005).

Treatment Progress Dimensions

The American Society of Addiction Medicine’s (2003), “Patient Placement Criteria for the Treatment of Substance-Related Disorders, 3rd Edition”, has set the standard in the field of addiction treatment for recognizing the totality of the individual in his or her life situation. This includes the internal interconnection of multiple dimensions from biomedical to spiritual, as well as external relationships of the individual to the family and larger social groups. Life-style addictions may affect many domains of an individual's functioning and frequently require multi-modal treatment. Real progress however, requires appropriate interventions and motivating strategies for every dimension of an individual’s life.


Senin, 11 September 2017

Teen Drug Rehab - How to Make an Informed Decision

There are over 1 million teenagers who are dependent on illegal drugs. There is a nearly equal number that are alcohol-dependent. Not all of these teens need inpatient care or teen drug rehab. But to avoid that, two things need to be achieved: a total cessation of substance abuse and a demonstrated among the teen's family of open and improving ability to talk about the problem and find solutions.

But that's easier said than done. And, if you are the parent of that teen, what should you do if your doctor recommends inpatient teen drug rehab?

The good news is that there is an upside to this kind of recommendation. Most kids -- nearly 75% -- who need teen drug rehab never receive it. So look at the recommendation not as something to be dreaded. Look at it as an opportunity, a "wake-up call," that you can address to help your child.

So feel good that your son or daughter has an opportunity to get the teen drug rehab that they need. And by helping them sooner rather than later, their brain and their psyche (which is still forming and maturing) will improve greatly. This will improve their quality of life far into adulthood.

So how can you make an informed decision about teen drug rehab that works and is affordable?

First of all, get multiple referrals or recommendations for teen drug rehab from your doctor. Then scan the websites of these facilities. Even the most basic info is useful at this stage:

    Where are they located? Location is most critical because you are not going to simply drop off your child and go away. It is imperative that you play an important role in your teen's drug rehab. You must plan to visit your child on a regular basis. Not only that: many teen drug rehab facilities will not accept your teen in the first place unless you commit to participating actively in their recovery. Later on, your child will be OK'd to spend weekends in your home -- as recovery warrants it. So find a facility that is close to home.
    How much do they charge? Take an active role in finding out all the costs involved, whether or not you have insurance coverage for teen drug rehab or not. Knowing all the costs helps you make informed comparisons between one facility and another. Also, it will help you better understand what is likely to be covered by insurance and/or Medicaid. Also, be aware that some programs facilitate your getting aid that will cover the difference between what is covered by insurance and what is not. So ask about what is available in the way of financial assistance.
    What kind of accreditation does the facility have? Look for a facility to be accredited by the Joint Commission on Accreditation of Healthcare Organizations (JCAHO) or equivalent body. You should not consider a teen drug rehab facility that is not accredited. Also inquire about licensing. Ask if the facility is licensed by the state, e.g., the Dept. of Health.
    What is their treatment philosophy? Does the facility treat people of all ages together? Or are teens kept separate? Research indicates that teen drug rehab has a higher rate of success if the adolescent patients are strictly separated from adult patients.What about the 12-step model: does the facility subscribe to that? If so, be aware that there is a spiritual component to this kind of treatment. Are you sure your child is receptive to that? If not, it could have a negative impact on their recovery. Find out if there is an alternative offered.Will there be allowances made for the educational needs your teen will have? Just because your child is in teen drug rehab doesn't mean their education should be sacrificed.What about their emotional needs? Is there psychological therapy offered? How often would your child meet with a therapist? What kind of goals would this therapy have?What kind of parental participation is encouraged? Is there a regular "Family Day?" Does the teen drug rehab facility provide support and encouragement for the entire family?
    How long will treatment last? Find out how long the average residential treatment stay might last. Obviously this will depend on the facility -- and your child. Is it measured in weeks or months? You'll also want to find out how many teens are typically being treated at any one time. Regarding group therapy, how big are the groups? What sorts of rules does the teen drug rehab facility have -- specifically, what rules (if broken) are grounds for being dismissed from the facility?You may also want to ask about the availability of aftercare, i.e., what kind of support does the facility offer after your child leaves the inpatient program? This is perhaps most crucial of all in determining your teen's long-term success. It is customary for there to be at least 12 months of active involvement by your teen in the form of outpatient therapy, both one-on-one and in a group setting. Again, this is another reason to pick a teen drug rehab facility near your home.
    What is involved in the admission process? This is when your teen will be evaluated for the severity of their condition and for the most appropriate level of treatment necessary. Sometimes this involves your child undergoing psychological and/or medical testing. In addition, some basic decisions will be made about your child's level of treatment, e.g., outpatient, partial hospitalization, etc. Stay involved -- find out what steps are followed in this phase. This includes finding out what all the costs are (e.g., charges for urine screening, etc.) and determining what your insurance carrier will cover.
    Who is on staff? What qualifies the staff at the teen drug rehab facility to work there? What education level, background experience level, etc. Does the facility have medical personnel on hand in case of personal injury? How many staff are there in relation to the patients? Is the rate of turnover high or low?Do you feel comfortable with the demographic make-up of the staff on hand? Are they sensitive to cultural diversity?

Other important considerations

If this hasn't been made clear up to this point, you need to visit the teen drug rehab facilities that are on your short list before you make your decision.

All the photographs in the world, all the websites, might help you narrow your choices down, but in the end you need to be on site to make a final decision. And look at the facility the way your child might look at it too.

Some things to look for:

    Is the facility well maintained?
    Are there places for residents to go and remain active when the weather is bad?
    How do the meals look?
    How do the interactions between adults and teens seem? Observe the activities during an entire day, if you can.
    Are classrooms well stocked?

Perhaps most important of all: Contact the parents of teens who have graduated from the facility. Invest some time in speaking with them about how it went. There are some difficult questions you need to ask, but it is worth it. For example: did their child suffer a relapse after leaving the teen drug rehab facility?

Minggu, 27 Agustus 2017

Sexually Active? Learn How Soon Can You Take a Pregnancy Test

We can often hear that the young ones at the present time are getting really promiscuous. As the days go by, kissing in public is starting to become a normal scenario. You can no longer see young ones covering their eyes just like decades ago as they see someone smooching on the television screen. Pre-marital sex is one issue that has no huge impact to listeners anymore. Condoms and contraceptives are widely sold in the market and buying one is not embarrassing to any further extent for some these days.

What was once considered as obscene topics can be openly discussed now. Sexual harassments are more often than rebuttable by claiming that it was done with consent. Gone are the days when guys dig out traditional and conservative ladies.

News about relatives or friends getting pregnant while they are still minor is starting to be common. With all of the happenings in today's life; adults can no longer control the information their kids are absorbing. They may protect them through malicious conversations or television exposure, but they can never know what websites they access on their computers inside their bedrooms at night.

Many people believe that the only thing they can accomplish now is to educate their youngsters in the hope that they will soon know what to do and when to do the right things. The role of sex education comes into this.

The course entitles students to learn about but is not limited to the following:
• Their reproductive organs
• Accurate pregnancy test and knowing how soon can you take a pregnancy test
• Male and female forms of permanent or temporary birth control
• Sexually transmitted disease
• Fertilization, conception and giving birth
• The progress of fetus inside the womb

Sexually active teens should know how soon can you take a pregnancy test. After two weeks of sexual intercourse is the correct answer for "How soon can you take a pregnancy test?" By this time the hormone (hcG) that is used to identify the presence of an embryo inside the womb is apparent even in the woman's urine. This is for them to be aware on the things they need to avoid doing, eating or engaging into just in case they become heavy with a child. Since this is done by two parties, both of them should be ready on whatever result they may get, no excuses whatever age they may be.


Rabu, 09 Agustus 2017

Seatbelt Safety for Family and Children

Everyone knows that seat belts save lives, and the "Click It or Ticket" campaign has helped to decrease unrestrained (without the use of a seat belt) fatalities since 2005 by raising awareness about the importance of seat belt use. But are you getting the most available protection from your seat belt, and are you sure that you're using your children's car seats and booster seats correctly?

How important is seat belt use?
The statistics tell the tale: Lap and shoulder belts reduce the risk of fatal injury by 45 percent for occupants of the front seat - the most dangerous place to be in a passenger vehicle, as most accidents are head-on. For light trucks, lap and shoulder belts reduce the risk of fatal injury even more, by 60 percent.

Physics are the reason that seat belts are so effective: When you wear your seat belt, you're effectively attached to the car - so when the car stops, you stop. Without that restraint, your body stays in motion until something stops it, namely the steering wheel, dashboard or windshield. That's why injuries are so much worse in unrestrained accidents: At speeds as low as 35 mph, knees or wrists can break easily - even if the airbag deploys.

How to wear a seat belt - the right way:

    Move the seat as far back from the steering wheel as possible.

    Make sure the belt lies flat - a twisted belt means much less surface area to absorb the force of the crash.

    Fit the belt across your hips, not your belly.

    Ensure that the shoulder strap crosses your collarbone.

    Tighten the belt after it is buckled.

Pregnant women often receive mixed messages about whether to use seat belts because of the harm that they might do to an unborn baby in a crash. But pregnant women who are involved in unrestrained car accidents are much more likely to lose their babies than those who are strapped in correctly. When you are pregnant:

    Wear the seat belt across the top of your thighs, not across your belly.

    Move the seat back from the steering wheel as much as possible, with the steering wheel at least 10 inches from your chest.

    The shoulder belt should still be worn correctly over your shoulder as usual.

Infant seats and booster seats

Using the proper restraints with infants and children is crucial for their survival in an accident:

    Children ages 12 and under should always ride in the back seat - especially babies: An airbag can kill a baby in a rear-facing car seat.

    Babies should ride in rear-facing infant seats until they reach age one and weigh at least 20 pounds. After that, they can ride forward-facing in a convertible car seat with a five-point harness until they weigh 40 pounds (around age 2 or 3).

    Toddlers and children weighing between 40 and 80 pounds should use a belt-positioning booster seat along with the regular shoulder and lap belt.

    Use your baby's car seat correctly! Read the manual, pull up on the belt to tighten it once it is strapped in, and make sure the seat doesn't move. For a free car seat inspection, call your local hospital or police station.

Even if you find yourself without a booster seat for your child, still use the seat belt - it's much better than nothing. But never use one seat belt for two children, which can injure both; and never buckle yourself in and hold your baby on your lap - a crash will make the baby fly out of your hands.

Seat belt use on the rise

The Click it or Ticket campaign reports that since the program began in 2005:

    20 percent fewer children die each year from car accidents.

    Child restraint use has risen from 88 percent to 99 percent.

    Toddler restraint use has risen from 60 percent to 94 percent - an amazing increase.

    Adult seat belt use is at an all-time high of 79 percent.

And the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) reports a slight decrease in unrestrained fatalities, from 59 percent in 2002 to 55 percent in 2006. But just one unrestrained fatality is one too many. Make sure that you, your relatives, friends and passengers always buckle up!



Selasa, 25 Juli 2017

How Childcare Providers Can Identify Child Abuse

The task of taking care of children all day is enormous. Childcare providers have a responsibility to ensure the safety of all of their students while in their care. When a childcare worker suspects that a child is being abused or neglected at home, she is often unsure of what to do. Without proper evidence, she may be hesitant to report the family to social services. As a mandatory reporter, required by law to report suspicions of abuse or neglect, daycare providers must be aware of the signs of child abuse.

Some children may spend ten to twelve hours a day with their daycare provider. Often, a strong bond forms between them as she feeds, teaches, and nurtures the young child throughout the day. She may be one of the first people to notice any changes in a child's demeanor or behavior. It is important for childcare providers to know the signs of child abuse and neglect so that they can alert proper authorities if they believe it is necessary.

Some of the signs of abuse that childcare workers may notice is the child has difficulty paying attention during the day. He may seem preoccupied and lack an adequate attention span. If he is suddenly withdrawn or anti-social the childcare worker may talk with him to see if he will open up to her and talk about what is going on. Often abused children may revert to babyish habits like wetting himself or sucking his thumb. He may not want to go home and seem upset at the end of the day when his parents arrive.

An abusive parent may show signs of misconduct at home as well. A parent who seems distant or unconcerned with their child's welfare may be of concern. Parents who request harsh physical discipline or are aggressive with their children should be watched carefully. Often, abusive parents will seem bothered by the children and rarely happy with their achievements. They tend to have a negative attitude about their child and have very high expectations that their child will never be able to attain at their young age.

While the presence of one sign of abuse is not evidence of abuse within a family, the combination of some of these indicators may warrant further investigation. Once a report is filed, a representative from Child Protective Services will visit the family to determine if there is an issue that needs to be looked into. Once turned over to the state agency, the social worker will continue the investigation and gather evidence.

Childcare professionals are often an integral part of a family's support system. She should offer advice and resources to families that may be struggling. Nurturing a relationship with the whole family can often help childcare providers get help for struggling families before an incident of child abuse occurs.

If you are a childcare provider or own a daycare, nursery school, or preschool, be sure that your employees are trained to identify the signs of child abuse. Protecting children is everyone's responsibility. Empowering our childcare providers is essential to keeping all children safe and repairing broken families.

Jumat, 07 Juli 2017

Parenting Tips - How to Keep an Open Mind With Your Teenager

Parenting teenagers is extremely hard-work, that's why learning how to keep an open mind with your teenager is so important. Most parents have failed miserably at meeting their teenagers in the middle. Just because Facebook, MySpace, and sex bracelets didn't exist when you were growing up, doesn't give you a hall pass. It's clear that lots of parents are suffering from generational and technological gaps; still effective face-to-face communication is the key to being a better parent.

Remember not to yell, teenagers hate it when a parent yells and then realizes it (feels bad), is nice for the next ten or fifteen minutes and then starts yelling again.

I just gave you a straightforward example of ineffective communication; it even confused me for a second! STOP sending mixed messages to your children! Teenagers growing up in what's now being called the YouTube generation have already been exposed to issues older parents just cannot relate too. I strongly suggest that you level the playing field and learn how to speak their language - speak teenager. This basically means developing a unique parenting style that enables you to hear what they are saying.

Parenting Tips - How to Keep an Open Mind With Your Teenager

In my opinion this is hands-down the biggest mistake that parents make when trying to discipline a teenager. Never ever compare your childhood experiences. Saying things like, "Why can't you be more like I was when I was your age?" Allow your teenager some space to make his or her own mistakes - they have a lot to deal with such as living above the influence, sex/std, dating, prom, college, and let's no forget the gossip.

If your teen does something wrong, speak your peace, dish out the punishment, and move on. Most of the time s/he knows s/he is wrong, and wants to admit it. There is no sense of going on and on about what your teenager did wrong - it'll only flare up into a bigger argument.

Make some time for your baby. You probably have no idea what your teen is like outside the house. Learn to listen, the teenage years is when a child discovers life for him/herself and that's never easy.

Always be there. Drop everything you are doing and try to help. Teens like to know they have parents that care.

Remember that you're not perfect. Stop thinking you are! Although, you may be right sometimes; you're not ALWAYS right. Try giving your teenager some credit s/he maybe living through issues you are aware of.

That's why double standards make your teenager so angry, the whole "do as I say and not as I do" is enough to drive anybody insane. Yes, it's true that most parents have uttered the phrase "I brought you into this world, and I can take you out". Kids really hate that line, plus it has worn out its welcome! In other words, unless you're planning an extended vacation in prison, quit using those one-liners, you can be a little more creative than that right?